January 4, 2024
LILY Letter 143: A Word for the New Year?

Every January, social media is full of posts where people announce their choice for a word as their theme for the year. For the past 7-8 years (since before we married), we've been choosing a word for ourselves. In 2023, Jeff chose "Strength" and Cathy chose "Comfort." We'd like to share a bit about our […]

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December 28, 2023
LILY Letter 142: Working with Reality & Making Compromises

Years ago, Jeff was working with a builder to construct a home. As they went through estimates of costs, the time it was going to take to complete, and what the finished product might look like, the builder told Jeff that, in construction, there are three priorities to consider: good, fast, cheap. He said, "Most […]

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August 15, 2023
LILY Letter 123: Why Not Date a Widow?

This is a particularly sensitive topic for widowed women of our faith. This month's podcast guest reached out to us after listening to LILY Pod episode 34 "Thoughtful Labeling" with sincere concerns about her experience as a widow re-entering the dating world. This wise woman knows the importance of not labeling herself only as a "widow," […]

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August 8, 2023
LILY Letter 122: Stability for Singles After Loss

We write this week's edition of the LILY Letter with some caution and we advise our readers to strike a balance with what we suggest. We are big fans of intentionally healing from relationship loss before dating and developing new relationships. Many people start dating before finding a basic sense of stability as a single […]

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August 1, 2023
LILY Letter 121: To Make Much of Time

17th century English poet Robert Herrick penned these immortal words about a very mortal subject:  Gather ye rose-buds while ye may, Old Time is still a-flying; And this same flower that smiles today Tomorrow will be dying. The glorious lamp of heaven, the sun, The higher he’s a-getting, The sooner will his race be run, […]

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July 26, 2023
LILY Letter 120: Leaps of Faith & Victory in Christ

We were asked to give the keynote address for the Twin Falls Singles Conference last weekend (7/22/23). The theme for that conference was "Victory in Christ" so that has been on our mind for the past few months. It was wonderful to associate with and get to know the many single adults ages 30+ who […]

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July 18, 2023
LILY Letter 119: Generational Shifting Pioneers

We have learned recently that codependency (excessive reliance on relationships) tends to be learned in childhood and passed from one generation to the next. Yet we know that we can break free from codependent patterns, just as we can move beyond relationship failures and start learning from a successful new companionship. Generational shifting requires courage […]

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May 30, 2023
LILY Letter 112: After Divorce, How Soon Should I Date?

How many stories have we heard about people who start to date while their divorces are pending, get engaged shortly afterward, and are married two or three months after the divorce is final? We've heard a lot of them. The brief second marriage appears to be a common phenomenon in our faith community. (We each […]

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February 28, 2023
LILY Letter 99: Life Design After Divorce

To recover from divorce, create a joyful life, and prepare to create healthy relationships, register for "Life Design After Divorce" 12-week course HERE: lilywebinars.com/order-page President David O. McKay famously quoted J. E. McCulloch, for the proposition that "No other success can compensate for failure in the home" (Conference Report, Apr. 1935, 116). While I believe […]

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