January 4, 2024
LILY Letter 143: A Word for the New Year?

Every January, social media is full of posts where people announce their choice for a word as their theme for the year. For the past 7-8 years (since before we married), we've been choosing a word for ourselves. In 2023, Jeff chose "Strength" and Cathy chose "Comfort." We'd like to share a bit about our […]

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November 22, 2023
LILY Letter 137: Happy Thanksgiving! The Benefits of Gratitude

Following our divorces, we had a rough time and experienced many subsequent losses (financial, health, other relationships, etc.). On top of those accumulated losses, we each struggled with depression for many years. Oddly enough, losing everything we felt mattered taught us that gratitude is the most important key to happiness. We learned how to start […]

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July 18, 2023
LILY Letter 119: Generational Shifting Pioneers

We have learned recently that codependency (excessive reliance on relationships) tends to be learned in childhood and passed from one generation to the next. Yet we know that we can break free from codependent patterns, just as we can move beyond relationship failures and start learning from a successful new companionship. Generational shifting requires courage […]

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July 4, 2023
LILY Letter 117: Celebrating Emotional Independence - Happy 4th of July!

As we celebrate independence here in America, we invite you to consider emotional independence and how to go about declaring that independence against whatever is depriving you of it. The inability to make a decision on your own can be its own form of tyranny. Fear that you lack the ability to support yourself financially […]

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June 20, 2023
LILY Letter 115: Honoring Single Fathers

Now is a confusing time to be a man. In this day and age, a father that tries to be the head of the house is looked upon as a misogynist dinosaur. On the other hand, a father who does not try to be the head of the house is looked upon as weak and […]

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May 16, 2023
LILY Letter 110: Honoring Single Mothers

We just celebrated Mother's Day. We believe holidays can last all month. This month, and especially this week, we encourage each of our readers to reach out to their single mom friends to offer appreciation and support in what can be a pretty thankless and heavy stewardship they carry. Whether you are a single mom, […]

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March 14, 2023
LILY Letter 101: Happy St. Patrick's!

Seven years ago this St. Patrick's Day, Cathy posted a selfie wearing a green shirt emblazoned with a shamrock and the words, "Looking for my Lucky Charm." That day, her eternal companion entered her life. Jeff saw her post and sent her a friend request. We became Facebook friends on St. Patrick's in 2016 so St. […]

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February 14, 2023
LILY Letter 97: Happy Valentine's!

In the movie "Mr. Wrong," the main character, played by Ellen DeGeneres calls Valentine's Day "the lamest day on a single girl's calendar." For many, it is a solemn reminder of what they don't have. It is sometimes an excuse for well-meaning parents to pressure their single adult children to hurry up and get married. […]

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January 9, 2023
A WORD FOR THE YEAR?

Every January, social media is full of posts where people announce their choice for a word as their theme for the year. In 2022, I also decided to choose a word. As I thought about what word to choose, what kept coming to me was the word “sanctify.” Little did I know at the time […]

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