About a month ago, I saw a post where a mid-single person commented, "We are just the leftovers. Get used to it." I've pondered that characterization a lot since then. Is it true? Are mid-singles just the leftovers that nobody else wanted?
I have also sometimes heard people refer to mid-singles as an "Island of Misfit Toys." How about that expression? Is it useful or descriptive?
You are generally what you choose to see yourself as. I see myself as a person who controls his temper and doesn't get angry. As a result, I rarely lose it. I haven't lost control of myself since I was 19. I am still working on eliminating the triggers that cause me to feel angry on the inside. But I've come a long way in my internal peace and happiness too.
If you see yourselves as leftovers, you do not do justice to the God who created you in His own image and likeness. (This applies equally to women because we have a Mother in Heaven. Genesis 1:26-27.) If you are endowed, God has empowered you to become a king or a queen. If you are not yet endowed, that blessing is awaiting you. This means that you have the power to rise from the status of a mere mortal to the glory of an eternal king or queen, and to preside over numberless dominions of all heights and depths. That is what you were born to be.
The purpose of this post is to remind you of who you are and what you have the power to become. That is what Love in Later Years is about. We are not just here to nurse our wounds and help a few people get married. We are here to create kings and queens, filled with infinite love, power, and glory.
”I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us” (Romans 8:18). In this verse, Paul does not say God will create glory in us. He says God will "reveal" the glory that is already there. What is that glory? It is the divine heritage that dwells in your very being because you are a child of God. The fact that you may have suffered or that you are suffering now does not change this. It will reveal who you really are.
You are not leftovers. You are resilient survivors who have been tested by the refiner's fire. You have forged character and courage and strength beyond what most mortals could endure. You are among the elect of God, and you are future kings and queens.
Never let anyone tell you that you are the leftovers, or that you are less worthy of divine blessings or fellowship with the Saints because of your single status. You may be at a different place than some of us, but you are moving in the direction of a crown of eternal glory. I believe most of you will yet taste a portion of this Glory while you are still on this Earth.
Cathy is not merely the "leftovers" I could manage to scrape up like crumbs on the kitchen floor of life. She is my queen. It is the great privilege of my life to be loved by her. The fact that we both had a life before each other only means that we were prepared for each other in a unique way.