LILY Letter 19: Finding Peace

August 17, 2021

Intentional Courtship: A Mid-Singles Guide to Peace, Progress and Pairing Up in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is about so much more than dating. Our book is divided up into 3 sections. “Part One: Peace—Laying a Foundation” includes the first eight chapters, which are dedicated to finding peace with whatever challenges have come your way.

Healing from loss, overcoming limiting beliefs, and developing personally provides a strong foundation for creating a joyful life as a single person and, if you desire, attracting a spouse with whom you can build a bright future together. If each mid-single purchased our book and only read this first section, it would be well worth the investment. Each section could be a book all by itself but we chose to keep them together because we wanted to provide a comprehensive resource that included all aspects of navigating mid-single life.

Letting go of thoughts and feelings that don’t serve us through the power of forgiveness is a gift we give ourselves. Forgiving a former spouse who may have deeply hurt us may be one of the hardest things we came to earth to learn. Acknowledging our own shortcomings in a previous relationship and granting ourselves grace is also an important and worthwhile endeavor. For some of us, the classroom of divorce is what we were given to grow from in this life. For others, it may be remaining single for many more years than desired or losing a spouse to death. These are not classrooms anyone would hope for but we can learn to appreciate the gift of its lessons which are uniquely tailored for us individually.

Living with unhealed wounds and bitterness is a poor foundation for happiness with a potential partner. It is not a good place to be if you want to attract a forever companion. Trauma can keep us stuck in fear and unable to move on into a more healthy relationship in the future. Because peace and fear do not coexist, moving past fear into faith is part of finding inner peace and moving forward. It is far better to build a relationship based on peaceful self-awareness and creating a happy life as a single person. Make peace with the past and intentionally create joy in your life now. This is the best way to live and also a great way to prepare for a loving and fulfilling relationship.

LILY Pod Episode 27: A Mid-Singles Guide to Peace

In “A Mid-Singles Guide to Peace,” we discuss how to obtain peace and healing in the wake of personal tragedy and create a joyful life on purpose.

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